Episode 718: Harmony in Entrepreneurship/第718集: 創業中的和諧之道

 第718集: 創業中的和諧之道

什麼會導致一個健康的46歲的人發生中風？壓力和過度工作，就是這樣。理查德-舒斯特博士本週加入播客，談論和諧和調整在創業中的重要性，並分享一些減少壓力的快速提示。

• 盡量減少接觸你無法控制的事物（如新聞）。
• 每天鍛煉身體。
• 安排時間來放鬆。
• 對你的工作時間要有界限。

要了解更多關於你可能不一致的地方以及如何恢復你生活中的和諧，請參加POWERS評估，www.seekyourpowers.com。如果你在結賬時使用促銷代碼BNI，你購買的50%的收益將捐給BNI基金會。

Misner博士在第136集、第406集和第598集討論了工作與生活的和諧。

Priscilla:

大家好，歡迎回到官方 BNI 播客。我是 Priscilla Rice，我從加州伯克利的 Live Oak 錄音室來。今天，BNI 的創始人兼首席願景官 Ivan Misner 博士與我通了電話。你好 Ivan，你好嗎，你在哪裡？

Ivan:

好吧，我一直在旅行，在過去的幾週裡，我通過Zoom去了巴西、新加坡、加拿大、西班牙、阿根廷。

Priscilla:
Wow.

Ivan:

你知道，我喜歡和會員們見面，但我得告訴你，不用坐飛機的感覺很好。因此，在過去的幾周里，我經常乘坐Zoom旅行。

Priscilla:

那很棒啊

Ivan:

我真的很高興今天能請到 Richard Shuster 博士來做客。Shuster 博士，或他喜歡被稱為的 Richard 博士，是一位臨床心理學家、TEDx 演講者和 Your Success Insights 的首席執行官，該公司幫助消費者、企業和運動員實現平衡和最佳表現。

他還是 The Daily Helping with Dr. Richard Shuster 的主持人：大腦的食物、專家的知識、贏得人生的工具，在 150 多個國家/地區定期下載。Shuster 博士的臨床專業知識和播客已在《赫芬頓郵報》、《男性健康》、《大都會》等刊物上發表。他還是 Every Kid Rocks, Inc. 的總裁，這是一家 501c3，幫助學校為兒童提供治療服務。我很高興能參加他的一個播客。歡迎來到 BNI 播客，Richard博士。

Dr. Richard:

謝謝你，Ivan。很高興來到這裡。

Ivan:

嗯，有你在這裡真是太棒了。你在談論一個我認為非常重要的主題。我過去曾在 BNI 播客上討論過這個問題。這就是和諧，以及和諧與平衡之間的區別。但是你有一個非常有趣的故事，你談到了中風是如何讓你變得和諧的。所以你想談談嗎？

Dr. Richard:

是的，實際上是一年前的上週。所以我對它進行了額外的反思和反省。你知道，我和你們中的許多人一樣，是一名企業家，帶著創業的心和心態從子宮裡冒出來。儘管有大流行，但我做得非常非常好。我有連續兩個季度，這是我有史以來最好的。我剛剛做了那個 TEDx，只是在所有汽缸上玩得很開心——然後中風了。

從神經生物學的角度來說，你知道，有一種說法--接近只在馬蹄鐵和手榴彈中算數。但我已經盡可能接近了。從字面上看，那次中風離我大腦的一個主要中心不到一毫米。我不知道那是什麼英寸。是的，他們在醫院使用毫米。所以，如果它擊中那個區域，伊万，我今天就不會在這裡了。

我將成為我家庭的負擔。我還活著，但我可能看起來像一個晚期帕金森病患者，可能穿著尿布，無法真正說話，可能無法控制我的手和我現在的活動能力。

所以，你知道，當我遇到這個事件時，這是不可能的。這沒有意義。我不喝酒，不抽煙。我從來沒有做過毒品。我吃得很好。我每週鍛煉七天，有時一天兩次。而且當時我已經46歲了。所以這種情況發生在我身上是沒有任何意義的。他們把你送到每一位"醫生 "那裡，以找出你的問題所在。

所以我們經歷了這個奧德賽，也許他得了癌症，也許是甲狀腺，也許是這個。到最後，這只是因為我缺乏和諧。我每週工作80個小時，我認為企業家們告訴自己一個謊言，"如果我們熱愛我們的工作，這就不是真正的工作"，對嗎？我們為它捶胸頓足，我們幾乎，你知道，把它作為一個紋身，對嗎？創業的標誌之一就是你可以做你喜歡做的事。

Ivan:

嗯嗯

Dr. Richard:

但現實是，工作就是工作。而且，你知道，我會在4:30或5:00起床並開始我的一天，我將在，你知道，晚上11點結束。現在，當然，我會停下來和我的孩子們一起做作業，餵他們吃東西，還有高質量的時間，但我確實是在兩頭燒蠟燭，我很幸運能在這裡度過今天。

Ivan:

嗯，這是一個驚人的故事。我完全可以理解，因為我自己肯定也犯過這樣的錯誤，可能時間太長了。我想這是九年前我被診斷為癌症的原因之一，也是促成因素之一。所以。讓我問你一個後續問題。為什麼和諧和一致很重要？

Dr. Richard:

這很重要。是的，這是第一條--和諧意味著你的生活中所有的氣缸都在運轉。對齊意味著你在做你被放在這個星球上要做的事情。因此，當這兩件事結合在一起時，有點像巧克力和花生醬，對嗎？它們本身很好，但它們在一起會更好。因此，你真的在一個空間裡，你很高興，你感覺很充實。

有這麼多的醫學研究，Ivan，表明那些對工作不滿意的人，那些從事增加壓力的人，更容易遭受醫療狀況。僅僅從壓力的角度來看，最近接受調查的89%的人說他們經歷過嚴重的壓力。

不只是一點點，而是嚴重的壓力。 你知道，從健康和健康的角度來看，我的天，壓力與這個國家的六大主要死亡原因有關——心臟病、癌症、肺病、事故、肝硬化和自殺。 和諧、平衡、熱愛你所做的事情、保持一致比以往任何時候都更加重要。 這些是幸福、健康、充實生活的關鍵。 我知道這是非常接近和親愛的你的心。

Ivan:

是的，它絕對是。而且，你知道，此時此刻，我們有大約282,000或283,000名BNI成員，分佈在全世界70個國家。他們中的大多數是，嗯，他們都是企業家或商業專業人士。因此，我認為這個信息對那些在壓力和工作生活方面可能處於類似情況的人來說是有價值的。我喜歡稱之為和諧，而不是平衡。你能談一下壓力的科學性嗎？

Dr. Richard:

是的，壓力真的很有趣，因為我們被設計為對壓力有反應，對壓力有回應。在過去，我說的是1.2萬年前，你在外面打獵，看到一隻劍齒虎，你的生理機能會啟動，腎上腺素會被釋放，皮質醇會被釋放，你大腦的某些部分會亮起來，然後你會離開那裡。而你會氣喘吁籲，但你會很安全，一切都會恢復到平衡狀態，你會很好。問題是我們不是被設計成在一個永遠存在壓力的世界裡。因此，壓力被媒體週期和新聞周期所加劇，現在是24小時和定制的。

這在過去是不存在的，我說的不是過去穴居人的時候不存在，我說的是，你知道，20年前。我們的口袋裡沒有任何設備為我們提供這種無休止的信息，而且大部分是負面的。因此，現在我們有一個大流行病毒，你知道，我們作為一個社會自1918年以來還沒有真正經歷過，世界與103年前非常不同。

所以發生的事情是我們有這些持續的壓力源，這意味著像皮質醇這樣的激素會全天候影響我們，圍繞恐懼和擔憂的認知扭曲現在一直存在。它所做的不僅是對我們的心理造成嚴重破壞，而且對我們的身體造成嚴重破壞，我之前在引用最近的研究時提到過這一點。它是如此重要——我們無法控制大流行，對吧；我們可以選擇或不選擇接種疫苗。這不是政治聲明。這只是事實。我們可以選擇，你知道，我們要和誰在一起，我們要做什麼，但我們真的不能控制病毒如何傳播和它可能做什麼。我們不是對戰爭、經濟沒有任何控制，有所有這些事情，但它被塞進我們的喉嚨。因此，我們盡可能地減少對它的接觸，這真的很關鍵。我的意思是，我告訴人們要關掉新聞。

Ivan:

哦，是的，我多年來一直在說 - 微劑量新聞。

Dr. Richard:

是的，沒有應用程序。我的手機上沒有新聞應用程序。我沒有新聞資訊。如果你的社交媒體上有一些人，他們所做的一切都是在轉發 "世界末日，天要塌下來了"，那就把這些人從你的信息庫中刪除。你不必成為一個混蛋，取消他們的好友，但一定要取消關注。所以你知道，這些是你可以做的小事。

Ivan:

還有什麼其他簡單的提示嗎？我們還有大約一分鐘的時間來總結。

Dr. Richard:

絕對的。每天鍛煉身體，安排時間放鬆。

Ivan:

是的

Dr. Richard:

並對你的工作時間有所約束。

Ivan:

是的，你知道，在我的整個職業生涯中，我有一個所謂的心理健康日，每週一次，只要有可能，我只是做我想做的事情，我呆在家裡，沒有人過來，我可能看到家人，但這是我的餘地。我認為這真的很重要。太多的商人沒有這些。

Dr. Richard:

這一點至關重要

Ivan:

那麼，Dr. Richard，請告訴我們人們可以在哪裡與你聯繫，你有什麼網站，我知道你有一個為BNI會員準備的特別的東西，我希望你能分享一下。

Dr. Richard:

我有。你可以通過 www.DrRichardShuster.com 與我聯繫，你想怎麼拼就怎麼拼。我在我的姓上買了所有可能的域名配置，但對我來說，那是母艦。是的，你知道，從中風開始，當我康復後，我們建立了一個工具，一個基於經驗的工具，為企業家和工作的母親和父親提供工作生活平衡，用你的術語來說，就是和諧與平衡，Ivan。正如我經常對基金會和非營利組織所做的那樣，我喜歡BNI基金會正在做的事情。

因此，如果你去www.seekyourpowers.com，並在結賬時使用代碼BNI，所有收益的50%將直接用於BNI基金會。而這是永遠的。所以，自己去看看吧，了解自己，與你的親人分享吧。我們正在努力籌集盡可能多的錢。正如你在介紹中所說，我也有一個為兒童服務的慈善機構。因此，這與我的心很近，我將盡可能地幫助你的基金會。

Ivan:

嗯，非常感謝。它是 www.seekyourpowers.com，代碼是 BNI。它是大寫還是小寫有關係嗎？

Dr. Richard:

不，這根本沒有關係。

Ivan:

聽著，我想感謝你邀請我參加你的播客，我想感謝你來參加BNI播客，我的播客。我認為你有一些很好的信息要與企業家、世界各地的BNI會員分享。謝謝你來到這裡。Richard博士，我很感謝你。

Dr. Richard:

當然。 這是我的榮幸。 謝謝你，Ivan。

Ivan:

交還給你，Priscilla.

Priscilla:

好的，這很好。非常感謝你們兩位提供的精彩信息。這個播客是由www.misneraudioprograms.com。這些播客將為你提供工具和靈感，有力地提高你的BNI經驗，幫助你促進你的業務。因此，請查看www.misneraudioprograms.com，並使用促銷代碼IVAN50，所有音頻節目享受50%的折扣[該代碼在有限的時間內有效]。所有的收益都將捐給BNI基金會。因此，非常感謝您的收聽。我是Priscilla Rice，我們期待你下週再次加入我們的BNI官方播客的另一個激動人心的節目。

Episode 718: Harmony in Entrepreneurship

August 4, 2021 by Ivan Misner 4 Comments

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Synopsis

What can cause a healthy 46-year-old to have a stroke? Stress and overwork, that’s what. Dr. Richard Shuster joins the podcast this week to talk about the importance of harmony and alignment in entrepreneurship and share some quick tips for reducing stress.

• Minimize exposure to things you can’t control (like the news).
• Exercise daily.
• Schedule time to relax.
• Have boundaries around your work hours.

To find out more about where you may not be in alignment and how you can restore harmony in your life, take the POWERS Assessment at www.seekyourpowers.com. If you use promo code BNI at checkout, 50% of proceeds from your purchase will go to the BNI Foundation.

Dr. Misner discussed work-life harmony in Episode 136, Episode 406, and Episode 598.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 718

Priscilla:

Hello everybody, and welcome back to The Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. And I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan, how are you and where are you?

Ivan:
Well, I’ve been traveling a lot, via Zoom over the last few weeks I’ve been to Brazil, Singapore, Canada, Spain, Argentina.

Priscilla:
Wow.

Ivan:
You know, I love meeting the members in person, but I gotta tell you, it’s nice not having to get on planes. So I’ve been traveling a lot by Zoom over the last few weeks.

Priscilla:

That’s great.

Ivan:

I am really excited to have as a guest here today Dr. Richard Shuster. Dr. Shuster, or Dr. Richard as he likes to be known as, is a clinical psychologist, a TEDx speaker and a CEO of Your Success Insights, which helps consumers and corporations and athletes achieve balance and peak performance. He’s also the host of The Daily Helping with Dr. Richard Shuster: Food for the Brain, Knowledge from the Experts, Tools to Win at Life, which is regularly downloaded in over 150 countries. Dr. Shuster’s clinical expertise and podcast have been featured in such publications as The Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and others. He is also the president of Every Kid Rocks, Inc., a 501c3 which helps schools provide therapy services to children. And I was very pleased to be on one of his podcasts. Welcome to the BNI podcast, Dr. Richard.

Dr. Richard:
Thank you, Ivan. It is great to be here.

Ivan:
Well, it’s fantastic having you here. And you’re talking about a subject that I think is really important. And I’ve talked about this on a BNI Podcast in the past. And that’s about harmony, and the difference between harmony and balance. But you have a very interesting story, and you talk about how harmony came to you from having suffered a stroke. So do you want to talk a little bit about that?

Dr. Richard:
Yeah, it was actually a year ago last week. And so I’ve been extra reflective and introspective about it. You know, I, like many of you listening to this, am an entrepreneur, and kind of popped out of the womb with an entrepreneurial heart and mindset. And I was, despite the pandemic, doing really, really well. I had had two consecutive quarters which were my best ever. I just did that TEDx, was just having a great time firing on all cylinders—and then had a stroke.

And neurobiologically speaking you know, there’s an expression – close only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades. But I got as close as you can get. Literally, that stroke missed a major center of my brain by less than a millimeter. And I don’t know what that is an inches. Yeah, they use millimeters in the hospital. And so, had it hit that area, Ivan, I wouldn’t be here today. I would be a burden to my family. I’d be alive, but I would probably look like a patient with advanced Parkinson’s, probably in a diaper, unable to really speak, probably wouldn’t have control of my hands and the mobility that I do now.

And so, you know, when I had this incident, it was impossible. It didn’t make sense. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. I’ve never done drugs. I eat right. I worked out seven days a week, sometimes twice a day. And I was 46 at the time. So for that to happen to me just didn’t make any sense. And they send you to every kind of specialist imaginable, every “ologist” there is, to find out what’s wrong with you.

So we went through this odyssey of maybe he’s got cancer, maybe it’s a thyroid, maybe it’s this. At the end of the day, it was simply because I lacked harmony. I was working 80 hours a week and I think there’s a lie that entrepreneurs tell ourselves and that ‘It’s not really work if we love what we do’, right? We beat our chests about it, we would almost, you know have it as a tattoo, right? That’s one of the hallmarks about entrepreneurship is you get to do what you love.

Ivan:
Mmm hmmm.

Dr. Richard:
But the reality is, work is work. And, you know, I would get up and start my day at 4:30 or 5:00, and I would end it at, you know, 11 o’clock at night. Now, of course, I’d stop and do homework with my kids and feed them and the quality time and all, but I was truly burning the candle at both ends, and I’m wildly lucky to be here today.

Ivan:
Well, that’s an amazing story. And I can relate completely because I certainly was guilty of that myself for probably too long. And I think that’s one of the reasons, one of the contributing factors to the cancer that I was diagnosed with nine years ago. So. Let me ask you a follow up question. Why does harmony and alignment matter?

Dr. Richard:
It matters. Yeah, there’s number one – Harmony means that you’re clicking on all cylinders in your life. And alignment means you’re doing what you were put on this planet to do. And so when those two things are jelling, it’s kind of like chocolate and peanut butter, right? They’re great by themselves; they’re better together. And so you’re really in a space where you’re happy, where you’re feeling fulfilled.

There is so much medical research, Ivan, that indicates those that are unhappy with work, those that are engaged in increased stress, are likelier to suffer medical conditions. And just from the standpoint of stress alone, 89% of people recently surveyed said they experience serious stress. Not just a little bit, but serious stress. And you know, from a standpoint of health and wellness, my God, stress is linked to six of the leading causes of death in this country – heart disease, cancer, which you experienced, lung ailments, accidents, cirrhosis of the liver, and suicide. It’s so important, more than ever, to be in harmony, to be in balance, to love what you do, to be in alignment. Those are the keys to living a happy, healthy, fulfilled life. And I know that’s very near and dear to your heart.

Ivan:
Yeah, it absolutely is. And, you know, we have, at this moment, about 282,000 or 283,000 BNI members in 70 countries around the world. Most of them are, well, they’re all either entrepreneurs or business professionals. And so I thought this message would be of value to people who may be in a similar situation in terms of stress and work life. Harmony, as I like to call it, versus balance. Can you talk a little bit about the science of stress?

Dr. Richard:
Yeah, stress is really interesting, because we are designed to have a reaction to stress, a response to stress. And back in the day, and I’m talking 12,000 years ago, you would be out hunting, and you’d see a saber-toothed tiger, and your biology would fire, and adrenaline would get released and cortisol gets released, and certain parts of your brain light up, and you’d get out of there. And you’d be huffing and puffing, but you’d be safe, and everything would return to homeostasis, and you’d be good. The problem is we were not designed to be in an ever-present world of stress. So stress is exacerbated by a media cycle and a news cycle that’s now 24 hours and customized.

This didn’t exist in the past, and I’m not talking didn’t exist in the past when cavemen were around, I’m talking, you know, 20 years ago. There were no devices in our pockets that were delivering us this unending barrage of information, and most of its negative. And so now we have, and we have a pandemic that, you know, we haven’t really experienced as a society since 1918, and the world is very different than it was 103 years ago. So what’s happening is we have these constant stressors, which mean hormones like cortisol are impacting us around the clock, a cognitive distortion surrounding fears and concerns are now ever present. And what that does is it wreaks havoc not only psychologically on us, but physically, which I alluded to earlier when I quoted that recent study. It is so essential—we can’t control the pandemic, right; we can choose or not choose to get vaccinated. And that’s not a political statement. That’s just fact. We can choose, you know, who we’re going to hang around with and what we’re going to do, but we really don’t have any control over how a virus is going to spread and what it may do. We’re not we don’t have any control over wars, the economy, there’s all these things, but it’s crammed down our throats. So it’s really critical that we, as much as possible, minimize our exposure to this. I mean, I tell people turn off the news.

Ivan:
Oh yeah, I’ve been saying for years – micro-dose the news.

Dr. Richard:
Yes, no apps. I have no news apps on my phone. I have no feeds with news. If there’s people in your social media that all they’re doing is retweeting ‘the world is ending, the sky is falling’, get those people out of your feeds. You don’t have to be a jerk and unfriend them, but certainly unfollow. And so you know, those are little things that you can do.

Ivan:
Any other simple tips? We’ve got about a minute left to wrap up.

Dr. Richard:
Absolutely. Exercise daily, schedule time to relax.

Ivan:
Yes.

Dr. Richard:
And have boundaries around your work hours.

Ivan:
Yeah, you know, for my entire professional career, I’ve had what I call a mental health day, once a week, whenever possible, where I just do things that I want to do, and I stay home and I don’t have people over and I may see family, but it’s my margin. And I think that’s really important. Too many businesspeople don’t have those.

Dr. Richard:
It’s critical.

Ivan:
So Dr. Richard, tell us about where people can connect with you, what website you have, and I know you have a special thing going on for BNI members, and I’d love you to share that.

Dr. Richard:
I do. You can connect with me at www.DrRichardShuster.com, spell it however you feel like. I bought every domain configuration possible on my last name, but that’s the mothership to me. And yes, you know, out of the stroke, when I recovered, we built a tool, an empirically based tool for entrepreneurs and working moms and dads on work life balance, on harmony and balance to use your terminology, Ivan. And as I often do with foundations and nonprofits, I love what the BNI Foundation is doing.

So if you go to www.seekyourpowers.com and use the code BNI at checkout, 50% of all proceeds are going to go right to the BNI Foundation. And that’s forever. So check it out for yourself, learn about yourself, share it with your loved ones. We’re trying to raise as much money as we can. As you said in the intro, I’ve got a charity for children, too. So that’s near and dear to my heart, and I’m going to help your Foundation as much as possible.

Ivan:
Well, thank you so much. And it’s www.seekyourpowers.com and the code is BNI. Does it matter if it’s an uppercase or lowercase?

Dr. Richard:
Nope, it doesn’t matter at all.

Ivan:
Either one. Listen, I want to thank you for having me on your podcast and I want to thank you for coming to the BNI podcast, my podcast. And I think you have some great information to share with entrepreneurs, BNI members around the world. Thanks for being here. Dr. Richard, I appreciate you.

Dr. Richard:
Absolutely. It was a pleasure. Thank you, Ivan.

Ivan:
Over to you Priscilla.

Priscilla:
Okay, that was great. Thank you both very much for the great information. This podcast is sponsored by www.misneraudioprograms.com. These audio programs will provide you with the tools and the inspiration to powerfully enhance your BNI experience and help you boost your business. So check out the great material available to you at www.misneraudioprograms.com and use the promo code IVAN50 for 50% off all the audio programs [this code is good for a limited time]. And all the proceeds are going to go to the BNI Foundation. So thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

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