Episode 676: The 7 Principles of Givers Gain / 第676集 付出者收穫的七大原則

 第676集 付出者收穫的七大原則

在接下來的兩天裡，你可以從Amazon.com（對不起，只有.com）以99美分的價格獲得Infinite Giving。

https://tinyurl.com/InfiniteGivingKindle

本週米斯納博士介紹了他的新書《無限奉獻》。《付出者收穫的七大原則》

與Greg Davies和Julian Lewis合著。這本書闡述了如何將Givers Gain的原則應用到你的生活以及你的業務中。

"付出者收穫 "不僅僅是一句話。它是一個人生活的方式。如果運用得當，它將改變你的生活，而且有可能改變世界。

描述付出者收穫(Givers Gain)和7原則(Principles)如何結合的公式是

GG + 7P = IG

付出者收穫加上7原則等於無限奉獻(Infinite Giving)。

七大原則

1. 他們在你的眼中嗎？
2. 不求回報的付出
3. 超過預期的付出
4. 給予盡你所能負擔的起的東西
5. 收穫是好的
6. 保持謙虛
7. 表示感恩之意

領取本書，並在下方留言或添加評論。

本集由Ivan's Inner Circle贊助。今天就成為創始會員吧

第676集完整版

Priscilla:

大家好，歡迎回到BNI官方播客。我是Priscilla Rice，我現在從加州伯克利的Live Oak錄音室為您播報。我今天在電話中加入的是BNI的創始人和首席願景官，Dr. Ivan Misner。Ivan，你好嗎？你在哪裡？

Ivan:

“你好嗎？ 還有你在哪裡？” 我喜歡再次聽到這些話，Priscilla。 我有很多人對我說，他們想念Priscilla說你好嗎？ 還有你在哪裡？ 因此，我決定我應該開始談論我實際上在世界各地的位置。

因為我仍然在世界各地進行許多虛擬活動。 因此，我們將繼續介紹您最近以及您在哪裡，但是實際上我會一直在這裡，直到我可以退縮並開始親自見到別人。 除了本週我在世界各地進行的許多記錄訪問外，我還將住在猶他州，參加本週的大型區域活動。 最近六個月以來，我將訪問世界許多不同地區的大型活動。 謝謝普里西拉（Priscilla）的提問。

Priscilla:

是啊，很高興你回來了，Ivan，在你的 "你在哪裡 "模式。

Ivan:

那麼，讓我們跳進今天的話題《付出者收穫的7大原則》。我很喜歡這個話題。它是基於一本剛剛出版的書，叫做《無限的奉獻》。而這本書的副標題就是《付出者收獲的7大原則》。而這本書是和朱利安-劉易斯和格雷格-戴維斯一起完成的，他們是我在書中的合著者。說實話，他們向我提出了這個概念，並建議我寫這本書，我真的很興奮。

因此，我們的目標是本書，我想談談本書中的某些內容。我們的目標是列出我們認為的“付出者收獲的七大原則”以及每個人如何將其應用於自己的業務和 生活。

因為Givers Gain不僅僅是一句話。它是一個人生活的方式。它是一種看待和與世界互動的角度。它是一種態度，而不是一種期望，當它被正確應用時，它將改變你的生活。而當它改變了足夠多的生命，它將改變世界。

所以在《Givers Gain》中，我們講到了 "7大原則"。而要記住一個簡單的方法，雖然這本書叫《無限奉獻》，但要記住《付出者收穫》和《7大原則》如何結合在一起的一個簡單方法是--我們創造了一個公式。公式為GG + 7P = IG。

這就是它的意義。 Givers Gain - GG，加上7個原則等於Infinite Giving。所以這本書的標題是《無限奉獻》，但它是關於《7大原則》的。而這個想法是，如果我們尊重Givers Gain的原則，它有可能改變世界。它可以改變世界。我已經看到了這一點與BNI。這就是7項原則。我將一次給你全部七條原則，然後我會簡單地談談每一條原則。

第1條是：他們在你的眼中嗎？ 

第2條是： "不求回報"。

第3條是： 比預期付出更多。

第4條是：給予盡你所能負擔的起的東西

第5條是：收穫是好的。

第5條是：保持謙虛

和第7條：表現出感恩之心。

因此，讓我們直接討論其中的一些問題並進行討論，就像我所做的那樣，我想感謝Greg和Julian，因為和他們一起很愉快。 我很高興與他們一起完成這本書。

讓我們從第一條開始：他們在你的眼裡嗎？這個概念來自於我的書《誰在你的房間裡？一言以蔽之，這其實是關於生活是關於辨別力的，你必須對你信任的人和合作的人有辨別力，才能讓 "付出者收獲 "發揮作用。而無限的付出並不意味著你需要成為一個無限的受害者。

我在BNI遇到一些人，他們說，"你知道，Givers Gain，我一直在付出，但我沒有得到任何東西。" 這不是Givers Gain的全部， 你不必是一個受害者 使Givers Gain工作。我們在書中談到了這一點，以及如何讓Givers Gain有效地為你工作。這也是我稍後要講的原則之一。這裡的底線是，我們生活中的人決定了我們生活的質量。所以這一切都要從你的網絡質量開始。

第二條，第二個原則是無預期的付出，這是第二個原則。第一，是誰在你的眼裡。第二，無預期的付出。當我們付出的時候，我們應該不期望我們的付出有任何直接的回報。

如果我們期望有回報，那麼禮物就不是禮物。所以，一旦有了回報的期待，那麼它就真的是交易，而不是禮物。當沒有交易期望的時候，Givers Gain的效果最好。而這7個原則，如果被正確地遵循，就能讓世界創造出像BNI這樣的Givers Gain社區，在一個無限付出的世界裡，沒有人被耗盡，也沒有人放棄。只需花費一點時間和精力，當你擁有並實踐Givers Gain理念時，你就能真正從社區中的其他商業人士中脫穎而出。

第三是給人的比預期付出更多。 所以上一個，您可能會認為這是矛盾的，上一個沒有期望的“奉獻原則”，然後這一條是“超出預期”，但事實並非如此。 奉獻您所能承受的並不矛盾或互斥。 這是對行動進行識別的一部分。 因此，付出超出預期的代價，但決不要超出承受能力。 在尊重他人的同時做一個。 那是原則的重要部分

第三，付出超出預期。 我的一個好朋友麗莎·尼科爾斯（Lisa Nichols）寫道，我知道她至少把它放在她的一本書上，您的工作是將自己的杯子裝滿，使杯子溢出，然後您就可以用碟子快樂地為他人服務。

我喜歡那種表情； 這是一個很好的表達。 簡而言之，它來自您的碟子，而不是您的杯子。而這也是我們希望你能做到的，其中的一個原則Givers Gain。好的，那麼下一個Givers Gain原則，這都是你能負擔得起的付出的一部分。而下一個原則，也就是第4條原則就是給你能負擔得起的東西。所以你要從碟子給。

第五條是收穫是可以的，原則第5條，收穫是可以的。Givers Gain是兩個字，付出者收穫理念的一部分。所以付出不僅是一部分，收穫也是一部分。有了Givers Gain，我們都有權利既給予又接受，既付出又收穫。

這裡的自信是指脆弱，它來自於在一個團隊或團體中建立信任。所以你要通過脆弱和建立群體內的信任來建立信心。而當你做到這一點，就可以獲得，人們對你的受益感到舒服，這意味著，我們在書中詳細地談到了這一點，你必須要求你所需要的東西。而當你建立了一種有意義的關係，你就贏得了向別人索取你所需要的東西的權利。而這也是《付出者收穫》原則的重要組成部分。

所以第六條，第六條原則，就是保持謙虛。謙虛的人不會把自己想得太低，他們只是想不到自己。

如果這話聽起來很耳熟的話，Priscilla，我在第645集裡談到了這個問題，我在那裡談到了謙卑，其實當時我正在為這本書準備一些材料。一個謙遜的人自我不會先於他們進入房間，去看看第645集，以及《無限奉獻》這本書，謙遜是如何為付出者收穫的概念發揮作用的。

第七條原則是要表現出感恩之心。而我在一集650號的節目中也談到了這一點。表達感激之情的重要性。而感恩效應不是新時代的心理學廢話，它是科學，背後有科學依據。我在第650集講到了這個科學。而我們在《無限奉獻》一書中也有詳細的論述。感恩，就像其他許多成功的原則一樣，很簡單，但並不容易。它很難應用。而感恩的效果不需要太多努力，也不需要花費太多成本。

所以這就是構成Givers Gain的7大原則，也是導致無限奉獻的原則。我相信，Givers Gain不僅是一個獲得業務的好方法，更是一個更好的做生意的方法。

當我們在社區內奉獻時，我們就會做到這一點。我們通過幫助他人來做到這一點。我們給予是因為我們知道，在同樣的情況下，其他人也會為我們做同樣的事情。我們給予是因為我們想從我們所獲得的利益中得到回報。

我們付出是因為，當我們共同努力時，我們會取得更大的成果。 我們付出，因為感覺很好。 這就是為什麼我認為我們的 "付出者收穫 "的理念是我們最強大的核心價值。這當然也是我們在BNI創造的第一個核心價值。

每天當我們生活在一個Givers Gain社區時，我想生活對我們所有人來說都會變得更好。而這裡的關鍵是將所有這些原則統一應用。

我們在書的最後有一個很好的故事，是關於一個滾石機的，在滾石機裡，你放了很多石頭，就能得到這些神奇的結果，這些美麗的石頭就是從滾石機裡出來的。而《付出者收穫原則》就有點像那個滾石機。

如果你只是把一塊石頭扔進滾石機裡，它不會出來閃閃發光的美麗。但是通過把七塊不同的石頭，這七種不同的概念，扔到一起，你就會真正地產生無限奉獻的概念，我們在書中詳細地談到了這一點。我們將在本書中詳細討論。 而且，我要確保此播客中有一個鏈接。

所以，在10分鐘內，你已經得到了《無限奉獻》的總結。我很希望你能去亞馬遜或當地的書店，買一本《無限奉獻》，因為它真的會幫助你成為BNI的會員。如果你這樣做，請你在網上做一個評論，因為評論真的對書籍有很大的幫助。那麼，在我們結束之前，有什麼想法嗎，Priscilla？

Priscilla:

首先，"Givers Gain "讓我對BNI感到非常自豪。這就像它的與眾不同之處，這是我經常和來訪者談論的第一件事，一個新加入組織的人。

所以我覺得你寫了這本書很好，你可以更深入地談論它。而且我覺有幾件事，一件事是當你說那會讓你感覺很好的時候，我認為這是真的。 這是一種奇妙的感覺，尤其是對於網絡人來說，他們以將人們團結在一起並使事情實現而自豪。

我覺得這個觀點真的很有道理。所以我想我還想說點什麼，但現在我已經忘記了（笑著說）。所以我要把它傳回給你。

Ivan:

好吧，謝謝你，普里西拉，我真的很感謝。 您知道，您可能無法以個人的身份改變世界，但可以在這個世界中有所作為。 奉獻具有感染力，有意識的奉獻可以是無限的。 然後，我將其轉交給您，Priscilla。

Priscilla:

很好，Ivan，非常感謝你。好了，本次播客的贊助商是Ivan的內心世界。去看看www.IvansInnerCircle.com，裡面有很多精彩的內容。他集合了各種有趣的話題，讓你了解，也讓你參與其中。所以非常感謝您的收聽。

我是Priscilla Rice，我們期待著您下週再次加入我們，參加另一集精彩的BNI官方播客。

Episode 676: The 7 Principles of Givers Gain

October 7, 2020 by Ivan Misner 5 Comments

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For the next two days, you can get Infinite Giving from Amazon.com (sorry but only the .com) for 99 cents. https://tinyurl.com/InfiniteGivingKindle

This week Dr. Misner introduces his new book, Infinite Giving: The 7 Principles of Givers Gain, co-authored with Greg Davies and Julian Lewis. This book lays out a way to apply the principles of Givers Gain to your life as well as your business.

“Givers Gain” is more than a phrase. It’s a way of living one’s life. When it’s applied properly, it will change your life—and it has the potential to change the world.

The formula to describe how Givers Gain and the 7 Principles fit together is

GG + 7P = IG

Givers Gain plus the 7 Principles equals Infinite Giving.

The 7 Principles

1. Are They in Your Light?
2. Give Without Expectation
3. Give More Than Expected
4. Give What You Can Afford
5. It’s OK to Gain
6. Stay Humble
7. Show Gratitude

Pick up a copy of the book and leave a review or add your comments below.

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Complete Transcript of Episode 676

Priscilla:
Hello everybody, and welcome back to The Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording studio in Berkeley, California. And I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello, Ivan, how are you? And where are you?

Ivan:
“How are you? And where are you?” I love hearing those words again, Priscilla. I’ve had so many people say to me, they miss Priscilla saying how are you? And where are you? So I decided that I should start talking about where I am virtually around the world. Because I’m still doing a lot of virtual events all over the world. So we’re going to continue with how are you and where are you but it’ll be where I am virtually until I can get back out and start to see people in-person. In addition to the many recorded visits that I’m doing all around the world this week, I am live in Utah for a big regional event this week. And I will be visiting many, many different regions for large events all over the world, and have been for the last six months. So thanks for asking, Priscilla.

Priscilla:
Yeah, it’s great to have you back, Ivan, in your “where are you” mode.

Ivan:
Yeah, I’m glad we added it back. Because I’ve been doing virtual events for the last six months. And I don’t know why we didn’t think of talking about that. But I just want members to know I’m out and about and visiting many, many regions. It’s hard to do chapter visits because there’s over 9700 of them, but regional events I do.

So let’s jump into today’s topic on The 7 Principles of Givers Gain®. I love this topic. It is based on a book that has just been released called Infinite Giving. And the subtitle is The 7 Principles of Givers Gain. And the book was done with Julian Lewis and Greg Davies, who are my co-authors in the book. And to be honest, they came to me with the concept and suggested the book, and I was really excited to do this.

So our goal for this book, and I want to talk about some of the content that’s in the book—our goal for it was to lay out what we believe are The 7 Principles of Givers Gain and how everyone can apply them to their business and to life. Because Givers Gain is more than a phrase. It’s a way of living one’s life. It’s a perspective to view and interact with the world. It’s an attitude, not an expectation, and when it’s applied properly, it’ll change your life. And when it changes enough lives, it’ll change the world.

So in Givers Gain, we talk about The 7 Principles. And an easy way to remember, although the book is called Infinite Giving, an easy way to remember how Givers Gain and The 7 Principles fit together is this – we created a formula. The formula is GG + 7P = IG. And this is what it means: Givers Gain – GG, plus The 7 Principles equals Infinite Giving. And so the title for the book is Infinite Giving, but it is about The 7 Principles. And the idea is that if we respect the principles of Givers Gain, it has the potential to change the world. Full stop, end of discussion, it can change the world. And I’ve seen that with BNI. Here are The 7 Principles. I’m going to give you all seven at once and then I will talk briefly about each of them.

Number 1 is: Are They in Your Light? Are They in Your Light?
Number 2 is: Give Without Expectation.
Number 3 is: Give More Than Expected.
Number 4 is: Give What You Can Afford.
Number 5: It’s Okay to Gain.
Number 6: Stay Humble.
And Number 7: Show Gratitude.

So let’s jump in on some of these and talk about them and as I do, I just really want to thank Greg and Julian because they were fantastic to work with. And I’m really excited to have done this book with them. Let’s start with Number 1: Are They in Your Light? That concept comes from my book Who’s In Your Room? And in a nutshell, it’s really about life being about discernment, that you have to have discernment in the people that you trust and work with, in order to make Givers Gain work. And that Infinite Giving doesn’t mean you need to be an infinite victim. I meet people in BNI where they say, “Well, you know, Givers Gain, I’m giving and giving and I’m not getting anything.” That’s not what Givers Gain is all about, you don’t have to be a victim to make Givers Gain work. And we talk about this in the book and how to make Givers Gain effectively work for you. And it’s one of the principles I’ll be talking about here in a minute. The bottom line here is that the people in our lives determine the quality of our lives. And so it all starts with the quality of your network.

Number 2, the second Principle is to Give Without Expectation, that’s the second Principle. The first is who’s in your light. Second, Give Without Expectation. When we give, we should do so with no expectation of any direct return on our giving. A gift isn’t a gift if we expect something in return. So once there’s an expectation of something in return, then it’s really a transaction, not a gift. Givers Gain works best when there is no transactional expectation. And The 7 Principles, when followed correctly, allow the world to create Givers Gain communities like BNI that sustain themselves in a world of Infinite Giving, and where no one person gets exhausted, and gives up. It only takes a little time and effort to really set you apart from the rest of business people in a community when you have and practice a Givers Gain philosophy.

Number 3 is Give More Than Expected, Give More Than Expected. So the previous one, you might think that it’s contradictory, the previous Principle of Giving without expectation and then this is Give More Than Expected, but it’s not. Giving what you can afford is not contradictory or mutually exclusive. This is part of applying discernment to your actions. So, give more than you may be expected to, but never exceed what you can afford. Do one while respecting the other. That’s the important part of Principle

Number 3, Give More Than Expected. A good friend of mine, Lisa Nichols, wrote, and I know she’s put it on at least one of her books, your job is to fill your own cup so it overflows, then you can serve others joyfully from your saucer. I love that expression; it’s a great expression. And in a nutshell, it’s give from your saucer, not your cup. And that’s what we want you to do with one of these principles of Givers Gain. Okay, so the next Principle of Givers Gain, this is all part of giving what you can afford. And the next Principle, that’s Principle Number 4 is Give What You Can Afford. So you give from the saucer.

Number 5 is It’s Okay to Gain, Principle Number 5, It’s Okay to Gain. Givers Gain is two words and receiving is part of the philosophy of Givers Gain. So it’s not only, giving is not only part of it, but gaining is part of it. With Givers Gain, we all have the right to both give and to receive, to give and to gain. The confidence here is to be vulnerable and it comes from building trust within a team or group. And so you build confidence through vulnerability and building trust within your group. And when you do that, it’s okay to gain, people are comfortable with you benefiting, which means, and we talked about this in the book at length, you have to ask for what you need. And when you’ve built a meaningful relationship, you’ve earned the right to ask people for what you need. And that’s an important part of the principles of Givers Gain.

So Number 6, the sixth Principle, is Stay Humble. Humble people don’t think less of themselves, they just think of themselves less. If that sounds familiar, Priscilla, I talked about that in Episode Number 645 where I was talking about humility and I was actually working out some material for the book at the time. A humble person’s ego does not enter the room before they do, and go take a look at Episode 645, as well as the book Infinite Giving, for how humility comes into play for the concept of Givers Gain.

The 7th Principle is to Show Gratitude. And I talked about that as well in an episode, Episode Number 650. The importance of showing gratitude. And gratitude effect is not new age psychobabble, it’s science, there’s science behind it. And I talk about that science in Episode 650. And we talk about it at length in the book Infinite Giving. Gratitude, like so many other principles of success is simple, but it’s not easy. It’s hard to apply. And the gratitude effect doesn’t take much effort and costs little or nothing.

So these are The 7 Principles that make up Givers Gain and that lead to Infinite Giving. Givers Gain is, I believe, not only a great way to get business, it’s an even better way to do business.

And we do that when we give within a community. We do that by helping others. We give because we know that in the same situation others will do it the same for us. We give because we want to give back from where we’ve profited. We give because when we work together, we get bigger results. And we give because it feels good. These are some of the reasons why I think that our philosophy of Givers Gain is probably the most powerful Core Value that we have. And it’s certainly the first Core Value that we created in BNI. Day to day when we live in a Givers Gain community, I think life is just better for all of us. And the key here is to apply all of these principles in unison.

We have a great story towards the end of the book about a rock tumbler, and how in a rock tumbler you put in a lot of rocks to get these amazing results of these beautiful stones that come out of it. And the Principles of Givers Gain are a little like that rock tumbler. If you just throw one rock into a rock tumbler it’s not gonna come out shiny and beautiful. But by throwing the seven different stones, these seven different concepts, into the mix, you really come out with this concept of Infinite Giving, which we talk about at length in the book. And I’ll make sure that there’s a link here in this podcast.

So, in 10 minutes, you’ve gotten a summary of Infinite Giving. I would love for you to go to Amazon or to your local bookstore, and pick up a copy of Infinite Giving because it really will help you as a BNI member. And if you do, please, please do a review online because the reviews really help the books a great deal. So, any thoughts Priscilla, before we wrap?

Priscilla:
Well, first of all Givers Gain makes me feel very proud of BNI. It’s like what sets it apart, and it’s the first thing I always talk about with a visitor, somebody who’s new to the organization. So I think it’s great that you’ve written a book, and you can talk about it in more depth. And I think when you said, there’s a couple things, one is when you said that it just makes you feel good, I think that is so true. It’s a wonderful feeling, especially for networkers, people that take pride in putting people together and making things happen. I think that’s a really valid point. So I think I had something else to say, but now I’ve forgotten it (chuckling). So I’m gonna pass it back to you.

Ivan:
Well, thank you, Priscilla, I really appreciate that. You know, I really believe that you may not be able to make a world of difference as an individual, but you can make a difference in the world. Giving is contagious, and conscious giving can be infinite. And with that, I’ll turn it back over to you, Priscilla.

Priscilla:
That’s great, Ivan, thank you so much. Well, the sponsor for this podcast is Ivan’s Inner Circle. Go check out the great content available at www.IvansInnerCircle.com. He has assembled a variety of interesting topics for you to learn about and also to participate in. So thank you so much for listening.

This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

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