Look For Solutions Focused People When You Are Networking / 當你在網絡上尋找解決方案專注的人

當你在網絡上尋找解決方案專注的人

有一些人是積極向上的人,也是支持我的人。這些年來,我認識到,這些人是我真正想在身邊的人。他們在解決問題的時候,都是以解決問題為中心。而且,他們幾乎都願意以積極的目的來討論挑戰。這些專注於解決方案的人就是引擎。他們幫助我們成為最好的自己,並激勵我們以積極的方式推動我們前進。你的個人和職業網絡的質量在很大程度上取決於你網絡中的人。

我們在帶人進入個人網絡時,往往會考慮到人們的能力,但我們往往忘記了考慮他們的態度。根據我對全球3400多人進行的一項調查顯示,一個優秀的人際交往者的首要特徵之一,其實就是他們的態度。專注於與專注於解決方案的人聯網,他們是引擎,而不是錨。


專注於解決方案的人


我注意到,正如我相信你所注意到的那樣,有一些人抱怨說,好像這是個奧運賽事。而且為了記錄在案,我查了一下,並不是這樣。此外,他們往往是消極的,愛爭論,沉迷於問題,而沒有真正關註解決方案。我已經學會了不要花很多時間和這些人在一起,因為他們專注於所有與大多數挑戰有關的事情都是錯的。如果一個人所做的一切都是專注於問題,那麼他們就會成為問題專家而不是解決方案的專家。這些人就是錨。他們拖住了我們的後腿,把我們拖累了。


你的身邊有誰,是引擎還是錨?


這對每個人來說都是一個重要的問題。因此,如果你想在你的身邊建立一個強大的人際關係網,這個問題就顯得尤為重要。你的人際網絡中是否充滿了幫助你在生活或事業上更上一層樓的引擎?還是他們是錨,是用無數的抱怨來打壓你?

他們是拖住你的後腿,還是推動你前進?有時候,當我們第一次見到一個人的時候,我們分不清他們是引擎還是錨。我們可能需要一點時間來觀察他們的做事方式和與人交往的方式。但是,關鍵的是,我們要盡快地注意到。

如果您想建立強大的個人網絡,請尋找引擎-這些解決方案著重於在您的業務和生活中為您提供幫助的人員。 禁止進入可能試圖進入您的個人網絡的錨點。 通常,他們並不真正在乎您,但主要是在乎您能為他們做什麼。


有趣的是,沒有人認為他們是錨。 他們會告訴您他們是引擎,他們只是不喜歡您要走的方向,所以這就是他們遇到問題的原因。 記錄下來,這種態度意味著他們是一個附有馬達的錨,試圖使您墜落得更快。

我的建議是呼籲“全力以赴”,切斷生活中的錨。 與您的其他引擎合作,全速前進。 創建您想要的生活和網絡。 只有專注於其他解決方案的人員才能幫助您做到這一點。













Look For Solutions Focused People When You Are Networking



There are some people who are positive and supportive individuals. Over the years, I’ve recognized that these are the people that I really want to be around. They are solutions focused when it comes to solving problems. Plus, they are almost always willing to talk through challenges with a positive end in mind. These solutions focused people are enginesThey help us be our best selves, and they motivate us to drive forward in a positive way. The quality of your personal and professional network is highly dependent on the people in your network.

We often consider people’s aptitude when we bring them into our personal network, but we often forget to consider their attitude. Based on a survey I conducted of over 3,400 people around the world, one of the top characteristics of a great networker is, in fact, their attitude. Focus on networking with solutions focused people who are engines, not anchors.

Solutions Focused People

I have noticed, as I’m sure you have, that there are some people who complain as though it were an Olympic event. And for the record, I’ve checked, and it’s not. Furthermore, they tend to be negative, argumentative, and obsessed with problems without any real focus on solutions. I’ve learned not to spend much time with these people because they focus on all the things that are wrong relating to most challenges. If all someone does is focus on problems, they become an expert on the problems and not on the solutions. These people are anchors. They hold us back and weigh us down.

Who do you surround yourself with, engines or anchors?

This is an important question for everyone. Therefore, It is particularly important if you are trying to build a powerful personal network of people around you. Is your network full of people who are engines helping you go to the next level in your life or your career? Or are they anchors weighing you down with the plethora of complaints?

Do they hold you back, or do they drive you forward?  Sometimes when we first meet someone, we can’t tell if they are an engine or an anchor. It may take a little time to observe the way they do business and how they interact with others. However, it is critical that we take notice as soon as possible.

If you want to build a powerful personal network, look for engines — those solutions focused people who help you in your business and in your life. Forbid entrance to the anchors who may be trying to get into your personal network. Generally, they don’t really care about you but mostly care about what you can do for them instead.

The funny thing here is that no one thinks they’re an anchor — no one. They’ll tell you that they are an engine and that they just don’t like the direction you are going and that’s why they come across the way they do. For the record, this attitude means they are an anchor with a motor attached who is trying to take you down faster.

My advice is to call for “all hands on deck,” cut loose the anchors in your life. Partner up with your fellow engines and go full speed ahead. Create the life and the network that you want. Only other solutions focused people can help you do that.




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