感恩效應( The Gratitude Effect )
感恩效應
我認識到當有些人聽到"感恩的態度"這句話時，他們會想，「是啊，是啊，是啊，更多的是新時代的心理學術語，但我們要的是硬性的事實」，好吧我同意硬性的事實是很重要的，這裡有一些來自相當有聲望的消息來源，他們對感恩的科學積極影響進行了令人信服的論證。
感恩的好處
- 哈佛醫學院最近報導說，有多項研究表明，表達感激之情的人「更加樂觀，對自己的感覺更好」。
- 坦普頓基金會進行的研究表明，「感恩的態度 」實際上可以對大腦產生積極的、「持久的影響」。
- 耶魯大學情感智能中心發表的一篇論文得出結論：「表達感激之情完成了與他人的聯繫感」（我想說，這在建立人際關係中相當重要）。
- 神經科學家也認為感恩是有效的。 克萊蒙特大學研究生院教授Paul Zak指出：「神經科學表明，認可對信任的影響最大...」 特別是在有形，意外，個人和公開場合。
- 加州大學伯克利分校對寫感謝信的人進行了功能磁共振成像掃描，並將其與未寫感謝信的人進行了功能磁共振成像掃描。 他們發現，寫感謝信的人比那些沒有寫信的人在內側前額葉皮層的激活度更高。其中，內側前額葉皮層被認為是大腦中的一個區域，可以引發人們對尼古丁、毒品和酒精的反應。換句話說，表現出感激之情被證明是一種健康的興奮方式。
- 西塞羅集團在《福布斯》雜誌上發表的研究發現，在接受感恩的人，其創新能力提高了33%，工作成果提高了22%，而且他們在企業中的停留時間也比那些沒有感恩實踐的人長。
說了這麼多心理學上的廢話。感恩可以改善態度，改善人與人之間的聯繫感和結果。這不是新時代，而是科學。
當一個人從感恩的角度出發，並沿途感謝別人時，感恩效應就會發揮作用。這意味著要花時間注意到所有你可能認為理所當然的好東西。就像其他許多成功的原則一樣，這意味著是一個簡單的概念，但在你的生活中經常性地應用這個概念並不容易。事情就是注意到哪些地方出了問題，哪些是你不喜歡的，哪些是讓你討厭的，或者是你面臨的問題。
以解決方案為中心
這些年來，我學到的是，如果你專注於問題，你會成為世界級的問題專家，當你沉迷於周圍的問題時，你很難表現出感激之情。然而，如果你專注於解決問題，你就能成為解決這些問題的世界級專家。這個過程要從認識到我們周圍有什麼是正確的開始。從這個出發點出發，我們可以對這些元素心存感激。另外，開始承認我們身邊的人所做的努力。感恩效應需要我們終生培養自己的感恩能力。
表達感激之情可以增強與他人的聯繫感。以下是你今天可以開始這種練習的方法：在我們的一生中，有很多人幫助過我們。他們是 "在我們的故事裡"。你承認他們了嗎？你感謝他們了嗎？你認識到他們給你帶來的改變了嗎？
我最近聽一個女人講了一個故事，她16歲的兒子幾乎不再上學了。他的成績開始下降，開始酗酒。最糟糕的是，他被抓到偷車和深夜騎車玩樂。她告訴我說，他兒子做了一些非常糟糕的人生決定，她也不知道該怎麼辦。
她決定送他去參加一個領導會議，看能不能讓他的生活有一個新的方向。
起初，他說：「不」，但到了假期前後，他說，如果這件事對她那麼重要，他 "會為了她"。
他參加了多日的活動，回家後告訴她母親，這次活動很精彩。他了解到，人是很重要的。決定很重要。你身邊的人也很重要。她告訴我，那次活動中的一位演講者對這個年輕人的影響特別大。然後她聯繫了那個活動的演講者，告訴他這個故事。表示她感謝他的演講對她兒子的人生產生的影響。她告訴他：「你把我的兒子還給了我」，演講者很感動，他給小伙子發了一條視頻信息，告訴他自己很感謝他說了一些讓小伙子覺得有幫助的話語，他為自己能成為其中的一小部分而感到自豪。更重要的是，小伙子回復了他，並告訴他現在他正在為自己創造生活。
感恩效應不需要付出太多的努力，也不需要付出多少代價。 然而，它能讓你自己和你周圍的人產生不同的影響。 當你以這種方式認可別人時，人們會像磁鐵一樣吸引你。 這加快了建立關係的過程。 如上面的故事所示，感恩效應會讓你的人際關係完全循環，然後繼續向著新的、有影響力的方向螺旋式上升。 相信我。 這就是科學。
當一個人從感恩的角度出發，並沿途感謝別人時，感恩效應就會發揮作用。這意味著要花時間注意到所有你可能認為理所當然的好東西。就像其他許多成功的原則一樣，這意味著是一個簡單的概念，但在你的生活中經常性地應用這個概念並不容易。事情就是注意到哪些地方出了問題，哪些是你不喜歡的，哪些是讓你討厭的，或者是你面臨的問題。
以解決方案為中心
這些年來，我學到的是，如果你專注於問題，你會成為世界級的問題專家，當你沉迷於周圍的問題時，你很難表現出感激之情。然而，如果你專注於解決問題，你就能成為解決這些問題的世界級專家。這個過程要從認識到我們周圍有什麼是正確的開始。從這個出發點出發，我們可以對這些元素心存感激。另外，開始承認我們身邊的人所做的努力。感恩效應需要我們終生培養自己的感恩能力。
表達感激之情可以增強與他人的聯繫感。以下是你今天可以開始這種練習的方法：在我們的一生中，有很多人幫助過我們。他們是 "在我們的故事裡"。你承認他們了嗎？你感謝他們了嗎？你認識到他們給你帶來的改變了嗎？
我最近聽一個女人講了一個故事，她16歲的兒子幾乎不再上學了。他的成績開始下降，開始酗酒。最糟糕的是，他被抓到偷車和深夜騎車玩樂。她告訴我說，他兒子做了一些非常糟糕的人生決定，她也不知道該怎麼辦。
她決定送他去參加一個領導會議，看能不能讓他的生活有一個新的方向。
起初，他說：「不」，但到了假期前後，他說，如果這件事對她那麼重要，他 "會為了她"。
他參加了多日的活動，回家後告訴她母親，這次活動很精彩。他了解到，人是很重要的。決定很重要。你身邊的人也很重要。她告訴我，那次活動中的一位演講者對這個年輕人的影響特別大。然後她聯繫了那個活動的演講者，告訴他這個故事。表示她感謝他的演講對她兒子的人生產生的影響。她告訴他：「你把我的兒子還給了我」，演講者很感動，他給小伙子發了一條視頻信息，告訴他自己很感謝他說了一些讓小伙子覺得有幫助的話語，他為自己能成為其中的一小部分而感到自豪。更重要的是，小伙子回復了他，並告訴他現在他正在為自己創造生活。
感恩效應不需要付出太多的努力，也不需要付出多少代價。 然而，它能讓你自己和你周圍的人產生不同的影響。 當你以這種方式認可別人時，人們會像磁鐵一樣吸引你。 這加快了建立關係的過程。 如上面的故事所示，感恩效應會讓你的人際關係完全循環，然後繼續向著新的、有影響力的方向螺旋式上升。 相信我。 這就是科學。
I recognize that when some people hear the phrase “Attitude of Gratitude,” they are going to think, “Yeah, yeah, yeah, more new-age psychobabble, but we want hard facts.” Well, I agree that hard facts are important and here are some from pretty reputable sources who argue convincingly about the science of gratitude’s positive impact.
The Benefits of Gratitude
- Harvard Medical School recently reported that there have been multiple studies showing that people who express gratitude are “more optimistic and felt better about themselves.”
- The Templeton Foundation conducted studies that showed that an “attitude of gratitude” can actually have a positive and “lasting effect on the brain.”
- A paper published by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence concluded that “expressing gratitude completes [a] feeling of connection” with others (something I’d say is pretty important in building relationships).
- Even neuroscientists argue that gratitude is effective. Paul Zak, professor at Claremont Graduate University states that “the neuroscience shows that recognition has the largest effect on trust. . .” Especially when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.
- UC Berkley conducted fMRI scans on individuals who wrote gratitude letters and compared them to the fMRI scans of people who did not. They found that the people who wrote gratitude letters had a greater activation in the medial prefrontal cortex than those who did not write the letters. The medial prefrontal cortex is, among other things, believed to be an area of the brain that triggers responses to nicotine, drugs and alcohol. In other words, showing gratitude is proven to be a healthy way of getting high.
- Studies by the Cicero Group that were published in Forbes found that people who are on the receiving end of gratitude have a 33% increase in their innovation, a 22% increase in work results, and they stay with the organization longer than those who are in companies who do not have a practice of appreciating their people.
So much for psychobabble. Gratitude improves attitude, feelings of connection, and results. It’s not new-age; it’s science.
The Gratitude Effect works when someone is coming from a place of being grateful and acknowledging people along the way. This means that it is important to take time to notice all the good things you might take for granted. Like so many other principles of success, it’s simple, but not easy, meaning that this is a simple concept – but it is not an easy concept to apply regularly in your life. It’s not easy, because the easy thing is to notice what is wrong, what you don’t like, what annoys you, or the problems that you face.
Solutions Focused
What I have learned over the years is that if you focus on problems – you become a world-class expert at problems, and it is hard to show gratitude when you are obsessed with the problems around you. However, if you focus on solutions, you can become a world-class expert at solving those problems. This process begins by recognizing what is right around us. From that starting point we can be grateful for those elements. Plus, begin to acknowledge those around us for the efforts they are making. The Gratitude Effect requires a life-long journey of developing our ability to be grateful.
Expressing gratitude completes the feeling of connection with others. Here is how you can start this practice today: many people have helped us during our lifetime. They are “in our story.” Have you acknowledged them? Have you thanked them? Have you recognized the difference they have made for you?
I recently heard a story from a woman whose sixteen-year old son pretty much stopped going to school. His grades began to fail, and he started drinking alcohol. Worst of all, he was caught stealing a car and joy riding late at night. She told me that he was making some really poor life decisions and that she was beside herself with what to do.
She decided to send him to a leadership conference to see if that would help take his life in a new direction. At first, he said, “no” but around the holidays, he said that if this was that important to her, he “would do it for her.”
He attended the multi-day event and came home telling her that the event was amazing. He learned that people matter. Decisions matter. The people around you matter. She told me that one of the speaker’s at that event had a particularly large impact on the young man. Then she reached out to the speaker from that event and told him the story. Expressing her gratitude for the impact that his talk had on her son’s life. She told him “you gave me my son back.” The speaker was so moved that he sent a video message to the young man telling him how grateful he was that he said something that the boy found helpful and that he was proud to be a small part of that. What’s more, the young man replied and told him a little about the life that he was now creating for himself.
The Gratitude Effect doesn’t take much effort and costs little or nothing. However, it makes a difference in yourself and the people around you. When you acknowledge people in this way, people are drawn to you like a magnet. This accelerates the relationship-building process. As the story above shows, the Gratitude Effect can come full circle and then continue to spiral off in new, impactful directions. Believe me. It is science.
留言
張貼留言