Episode 650: The Gratitude Effect(第650集 感恩效應)
本週，Misner博士想介紹一些關於感恩的事實，以及科學研究顯示出的關於感恩的積極影響。
- 哈佛大學醫學院的報告說，表達感激之情的人更樂觀，對自己的個人感覺更好。
- 耶魯大學情商中心的結論是，表達感激之情可以完成與他人的聯繫感。
- 克萊蒙特研究生大學教授保羅-扎克表示，神經科學表明，認可對信任的影響最大，尤其是當它是有形的、出乎意料的、個人的、公開的時候。
- 加州大學伯克利分校利用fMRI掃描顯示，寫過感恩信的人比不寫感恩信的人在內側前額葉皮層的激活情況更好。
- 《福布斯》雜誌上發表的西塞羅小組的研究發現，在接受感恩的人，他們的創新能力提高了33%，工作成績提高了22%。
心懷感恩，能改善態度。它能提高人與人之間的聯繫感，也能提高效果。這不是新時代，而是科學。
在BNI中，如果你沒有推薦人，你就給個推薦信。推薦信是以具體的、公開的方式表達感激之情。
以下是今天開始練習感恩的方法。在我們的一生中，有很多人幫助過我們。你承認過他們嗎？你感謝過他們嗎？你認識到他們為你帶來的改變了嗎？
感恩效應不需要付出太多的努力，也不需要付出什麼代價，但它卻能讓你自己和周圍的人產生不同的效果。而當你用這種方式去承認別人時，人們會像磁鐵一樣吸引著你，因為它加速了人際關係的進程。
第651集完整記錄
Priscilla:
Ivan:
謝謝你，Priscilla。這週，我在科羅拉多州丹佛市的美國會議上，這是我們的年度會議，所有的美國董事和一些來自大丹佛地區的會員都參加了。但我只想簡單說一下你的開場白，我很喜歡這句話。我這樣做是因為我想讓大家知道，我並不是一直坐在辦公室裡，而是我在旅行，訪問了很多分會。而且我覺得這樣做太酷了，人們只是走到我身邊，無論我在哪裡， 他們只是說，「你好，伊万，你怎麼樣，你在哪裡？」我絕對喜歡這句話，因為我知道他們在聽播客，越來越多的人在用你的台詞。我很感謝你用了這句話。
Priscilla:
Ivan:
所以，這裡是第一個。相當有聲望的來源，哈佛大學醫學院，他們最近報導說，有多項研究表明表達感恩的人更樂觀，個人感覺更好。有一篇由耶魯大學情感智能中心發表的論文，結論是，表達感恩之情可以完成與他人的連接感。建立關係是我的一個家長里短的評論，那就是--最後一句話，在建立關係中很重要。
這裡還，連神經科學家都認為，感恩是有效的。克萊蒙特研究生大學教授保羅-扎克指出，神經科學表明，認知對信任的影響最大。我再說一遍，因為這都是關於神經科學表明，認可對信任的影響最大，尤其是當它是有形的、出乎意料的、個人的和公共的。加州大學伯克利分校，在你所在的地方，進行了fMRI掃描。他們對寫過感謝信的人進行了核磁共振成像掃描並將其與沒有寫過感謝信的人的核磁共振成像掃描進行比較他們發現，誰寫了感謝信的人比那些誰沒有寫信的有一個更好的激活在內側前額葉皮層。現在，內側前額葉皮層對尼古丁、毒品和酒精之類的東西有反應。換句話說，表現出感激之情，會比酒精或毒品更能照亮這些東西，在我看來，這就像一種真正的、積極的、安全的方式來獲得這些感覺。
所以，西塞羅小組在《福布斯》雜誌上發表的研究發現，那些在接受感恩的人，他們的創新能力提高了33%，工作成績提高了22%，而且他們在你的組織裡待的時間也比那些沒有感恩員工的公司裡的人長。
所以，說了這麼多心理學上的廢話。感恩可以改善態度。它能改善人與人之間的聯繫感。而且它的感覺和結果也會提高。這不是新時代，這是科學。而感恩效應的作用，是當人們贏了，或者說當一個人從感恩的地方走來，沿途感謝別人的時候，感恩效應就會起作用。這意味著，花時間注意到你可能認為理所當然的好東西，就像其他許多成功的原則一樣，這一點很重要。
說起來很簡單，但也不容易，意思是說這是一個簡單的概念。但在生活中經常性的應用，也不容易。因為容易的事情就是注意到什麼地方出了問題，什麼是你不喜歡的地方，什麼是你所面臨的問題。這些年來我學到的是，如果你把注意力放在問題上，你就會成為一個世界級的問題專家。而當你沉迷於身邊的問題時，你很難表現出感恩之心。
然而，如果你專注於解決問題，你可以成為解決這些問題的世界級專家。而這個過程是從認識到我們周圍的事物開始的。從這個出發點出發，我們就可以對周圍的元素心存感激，並開始承認我們周圍的事物和人們所做的努力。感恩效應需要一個漫長的、終生的旅程來發展我們的感恩能力。而我的意思是，想想BNI。它是內置到BNI的基礎設施，會議的一個部分是關於給予引薦或給予見證。
記住，這不是會議中 "我有 "的部分。這不是你有多少CEU，或有多少1-2-1。它是會議的引薦部分。我們的任務會議只有一個部分，那就是推薦部分的意義。如果你沒有引薦，你就做個見證。 BNI的證言都是用具體的、公開的方式來表達感激之情，這正是我認為的大學--克萊蒙特研究生大學所講的。所以，表達感激之情，完成了與他人的聯繫感。
下面就來介紹一下今天的修行方法，很多人幫助我們轉動了一生。他們都在我們的故事裡，你承認過他們嗎？你有沒有感謝過他們，每一個認識到他們為你帶來的改變？你的BNI分會的許多成員都曾以某種方式幫助過你。也許這是一個引薦，也許你可以給他們一個見證。這是一個很好的方法。也許是他們幫助了你，因為你在某方面需要建議。如果你聽了這個播客，拿起電話打給他們。
Priscilla:
Ivan:
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Ivan:
Priscilla:
不客氣。好吧，我只想讓大家知道，這個播客的讚助商是www.ivansinnercircle.com。而伊万已經收集了各種各樣的話題，並邀請你參與。所以，去網上看看吧，在ivansinnercircle.com。非常感謝大家的收聽。我是普麗西拉-賴斯，我們期待著您下週再次加入我們的播客節目，為您帶來另一集精彩的BNI官方播客。
This week, Dr. Misner wants to present some hard facts about gratitude and what the scientific research shows about its positive impact.
- Harvard Medical School reports that people who express gratitude are more optimistic and feel better about themselves personally.
- The Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence concluded that expressing gratitude completes a feeling of connection with other people.
- Paul Zach, a professor at Claremont Graduate University, states that neuroscience shows that recognition has the largest effect on trust, especially when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.
- UC Berkeley used fMRI scans to show that people who wrote gratitude letters had a better activation in the medial prefrontal cortex than those who did not write the letters.
- Studies by the Cicero group, published in Forbes, found that people who are on the receiving end of gratitude have a 33% increase in their innovation and a 22% increase in work results.
Gratitude improves attitude. It improves feelings of connection, and it improves results. It’s not New Age, it’s science.
In BNI, if you don’t have a referral, you give a testimonial. Testimonials are about expressing gratitude in a specific and public way.
Here’s how you can start to practice gratitude today. Many people have helped us during our lifetime. Have you acknowledged them? Have you thanked them? Have you recognized the difference that they’ve made for you?
The gratitude effect doesn’t take much effort and it costs nothing, yet it makes a difference in yourself and the people around you. And when you acknowledge people in this way, people are drawn to you like a magnet because it accelerates the relationship process.
Complete Transcript of Episode 651
Priscilla:
Hello, everybody and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. And I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of DNI Dr. Ivan Meisner. Hello, Ivan, how are you and where are you?
Hello, everybody and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. And I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of DNI Dr. Ivan Meisner. Hello, Ivan, how are you and where are you?
Ivan:
Thank you, Priscilla. This week, I am at the US conference in Denver, Colorado, and it’s our annual conference with all of the U.S. Directors and a number of members from the greater Denver area. But I wanted to just say one quick thing about your opening line, which I love. And I do it because I want to show people that I’m not just sitting around in an office all the time, but I’m traveling and visiting a lot of chapters, more and more personal. And I think this is so cool. People just walk up to me wherever I’m at, and they just say, “Hello, Ivan, how are you and where are you?” And I absolutely love that because I know they’re listening to the podcast – and more and more people are using your line. And I’m grateful for you for using that line.
Priscilla:
Okay, that’s great. Well, it seems to work. So I get to find out where you are every week. That’s fine. Yes.
Ivan:
And today’s topic, I think is appropriate because it’s, it’s about the gratitude effect. And, you know, I recognize that when some people hear a phrase like, you know, we should have an attitude of gratitude. They’re thinking yeah, yeah, more New Age cycle, but we want hard facts. And so what I wanted to do with this podcast is to give you some hard facts that I think are important. And, and they’re from some pretty reputable sources who argue convincingly about the science of gratitude’s positive impact. So I’m gonna give you a few, and then talk a little bit about it. I’m happy to talk to you if you have any questions, Priscilla.
So here’s the first one. Pretty reputable source, Harvard Medical School. They recently reported that there have been multiple studies showing that people who express gratitude are more optimistic and feel better about themselves personally. There was a paper published by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence which concluded that expressing gratitude completes a feeling of connection with other people. Something I’d say is pretty important and building relationships and being that’s a parenthetical comment from me that – that last comment that it’s important in building a relationship.
And here’s another one. Even neuroscientists argue that the gratitude is effective. Paul Zach, a professor at Claremont Graduate University states that neuroscience shows that recognition has the largest effect on trust. I’m going to repeat that because that is all about big neuroscience shows that recognition has the largest effect on trust, especially when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal and public. Tangible, personal and public. Again, that’s Paul Zach that came from the Claremont Graduate University. UC Berkeley, in your neck of the woods, Priscilla, conducted fMRI scans. They’re a form of MRI scans on Individuals who wrote gratitude letters and compared them to the MRI scans of people who did not. And they found that people who wrote gratitude letters had a better activation in the medial prefrontal cortex than those who did not write the letters. Now the medial prefrontal cortex responds to things like nicotine, drugs and alcohol. In other words, showing gratitude lights those things up as much or more than alcohol or drugs, which is like a real, positive, safe way to get those feelings in my opinion.
So, studies by the Cicero group that were published in Forbes found that people who are on the receiving end of gratitude have a 33% increase in their innovation and a 22% increase in work results and they stay with your organization longer than those who are in companies who do not have a practice of appreciating their people.
So, so much for psychobabble. Gratitude improves attitude. It improves the feelings of connection. And it feels and it improves results. It’s not New Age, it’s science. And the gratitude effect works when people win or works when someone is coming from a place of being grateful and acknowledging people along the way. This means that it’s important to take time to notice the good things that you might be taking for granted, like so many other principles of success.
It’s simple, but it’s not easy meaning that it’s a simple concept. But it’s not always easy to apply regularly in your life. It’s not easy because the easy thing is to notice what’s wrong, what you don’t like what annoys you or the problems that you face. What I’ve learned over the years is that if you focus on problems you become a world class expert on problems. And it’s hard to show gratitude when you’re obsessed with the problems around you.
However, if you focus on solutions, you can become a world class expert at solving those problems. And this process begins by recognizing what’s around us. rom that starting point, we can be grateful for the elements and begin to acknowledge those things around us and the efforts that people are making. The gratitude effect requires a long, lifelong journey of developing our ability to be grateful. And I mean, think about BNI. It is built into the infrastructure of BNI that one portion of the meeting is about giving referrals or giving testimonials.
And remember, it’s not the “I Have” portion of the meeting. It’s not how many CEUs you have, or how many 1-2-1s. It’s the referral part of the meeting. We only have one part of the meeting for our mission, and that’s the referral part of the meaning. If you don’t have a referral, you give a testimony. BNI testimonials are all about expressing gratitude in a specific and public way, which is exactly what I think was what the university, Claremont Graduate University, talked about. So expressing gratitude completes the feeling of connection with others.
Here’s how you can start this practice today. Many people have helped us turn our lifetime. They’re all in our story. Have you acknowledged them? Have you thanked them every recognize the difference that they’ve made for you? Many members of your BNI chapter have helped you in some way. Maybe it’s a referral, maybe you can give them a testimonial. That’s a great way to do it. Maybe it’s that they’ve helped you because you needed advice in some way. If you listen to this podcast, pick up the phone and call them.
Priscilla:
Send them an email.
Ivan:
Send them a note, express your gratitude for something that another big member has done for you. It’s not psychobabble, it’s science. It’ll make you feel better. It’ll make them feel better. And it’ll have an incredible impact. What are your thoughts, Priscilla?
Priscilla:
I really enjoy thanking people for what they do on an everyday kind of regularity. I mean, just small things that people do, if you just say “Thank you so much,” it makes a big difference to how they feel and how you feel. And I also really suggest people smile, because the other part of it is, you know, to give off this positive energy towards another human.
Ivan:
Yeah, and that’s important, and you have to really sometimes think about that. You know, my natural state is not necessarily with a smile. I think I picked that up from my dad. I’m afraid people will look upset, and he was fine. And if I’m, you know, my face at rest is not smiling. And so I really have to try to focus on making sure to smile. But when you’re with other people, I think that’s really so important.
Priscilla:
I think this is a great message that you’re giving us here.
Ivan:
Thank you. I appreciate it. You know, I think the gratitude effect doesn’t take much effort and it costs nothing. Yet it makes a difference in yourself and the people around you. And when you acknowledge people in this way, people are drawn to you like a magnet because it accelerates the relationship process. And, and so I just want to wrap up by saying thank you, Priscilla. You’ve been the host of this podcast now for many years. And I think since 2008, so like 12 years, you’ve been doing it an incredibly long time. You’ve done a great job. And, you know, this podcast wouldn’t be what it is without you, and I wouldn’t have people coming up to me from all over the world saying, “Hi, Ivan. How are you and where are you?”
Priscilla:
Well, that’s great. Well, I get to say thank you to you because you are just like a super coach. And it’s so wonderful to have this connection. And to be a part of this process with you. I just love it.
Ivan:
Well, thank you. I appreciate that. And I would love for you if you’re listening to this podcast to send an email, send a message. Thank somebody. Thank somebody here on the podcast. Wouldn’t be great if you just publicly thanked a BNI member right here on BNI Podcast for something that they did for you? I’d love to see those. I read every message that gets put up there. So let’s put something up there. And, and that’s it for today. Priscilla, thank you so much.
Priscilla:
Oh, you’re so welcome. Well, I just like to let all of you know that the sponsor for this podcast is www.ivansinnercircle.com. And Ivan has assembled a wide variety of topics and has invited you to participate. So go online and check it out at ivansinnercircle.com. Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of the Official BNI Podcast.
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