謙遜讓人成為一個偉大的網絡人(Humility Makes For a Great Networker)
謙虛的人不會輕視自己，他們只是自己想的比較少。我認識的一些最優秀的網絡人都很謙虛。事實上，我見過的許多最成功的人都非常謙虛。謙虛和成功並不一定是相互排斥的。
在我十幾歲時，我記得有一次去參加一個政治活動。我已經決定，我想把自己投入到一個我所欣賞的競選活動中去。然後...........我認識了他，他是競選活動中的高人介紹的。
當他得知我是個不入流的大學生時，我幾乎立即失去了他的注意力。他的眼睛在房間里四處亂瞟，想找一個比我更成功的人。最後，他對我很不屑一顧，表現得非常傲慢。在那次遭遇之後，我決定不幫他競選。相反，我選了一個競選不同的職位的人。這個人很有魅力，也很友好。他很尊重那些 "看起來 "不怎麼 "出眾 "的人。他會和每一個人說話，不管是富人還是窮人，受過教育還是沒受過教育的人。他歡迎我參與他的競選活動。六個月內，我就跑遍了他的整個地區競選辦公室。我在那次競選活動中投入了數百個小時，幫助這個人贏得了公職。這段經歷讓我知道了很多關於我想成為什麼樣的領導人，因為我在生活中變得更加成功。
謙虛的代價是沒有任何代價，但卻能帶來驚人的回報。謙虛聽起來很簡單，但實際上是什麼樣子呢？有很多事情可以幫助一個人表現出自己的謙卑。以下是一份我認為很重要的謙虛的幾個特質清單。
謙虛的特質：
- 首先，也是最重要的-我不會先入為主。
- 他們是平易近人的，也就是說，他們很友好，很容易與人交談。
- 謙虛的人在談話中會傾聽並提出問題。
- 在談話中保持眼神交流，並保持參與討論。這表明了他們真正的興趣。
- 他們能讓人感到輕鬆自在，並在適當的時候感謝別人。
- 謙虛的人往往有一種 "豐滿的心態"，他們傾向於專注於解決問題，而不是簡單地抨擊問題。
- 要有情境意識，有很強的情商。
- 他們不會自我陶醉。他們知道自己的長處，對自己的身份很自在，但他們不會表現得好像世界是圍繞著自己轉的。
- 最重要的是，他們實踐著我所說的 "Givers Gain®"。他們以一定的利他主義精神對待生活，努力為他人做出改變。
當我們在生活中變得更加成功的時候，保持一個人的謙虛是至關重要的。我們都見過一些人，他們的自尊心比他人更早進入房間。他們的行為舉止華而不實，一般來說，大多數時候都希望自己成為眾人矚目的焦點。從長遠來看，我不認為這對人有什麼好處。
沒有人一直都是完美的。 這個過程是一段旅程，而不是目的地。 這是我們必須始終努力的目標。 在大型的社交活動中，我知道我度過了美好的一天，人們與我分享，他們對我的交流如此輕鬆感到驚訝，或者他們覺得我像普通人一樣。 我相信我們所有人中都有一個“普通人”。 向別人展示這個人是謙虛的一部分。
如果你在事業上取得了成功，要努力打破人們的期望，表現出真正的謙虛。做一個有魅力、有愛心的人，同時也要做一個有知識、有成就的人。最重要的是，請記住，謙虛的人不會輕視自己，他們只是自己想的比較少。
Humble people don’t think less of themselves, they just think of themselves less. Some of the best networkers I know are humble. In fact, many of the most successful people I’ve ever met have been remarkably humble. Humility and being successful don’t have to be mutually exclusive.
In my late teens, I remember going to a political function. I had decided that I wanted to pour myself into a campaign for a particular individual whose platform I appreciated. Then… I met him and was introduced to him by someone high up in his campaign. As soon as he learned that I was a lowly college student, I almost immediately lost his attention. His eyes were darting across the room looking for someone more successful than me. He ended up being very dismissive and came across as incredibly arrogant. After that encounter, I decided not to help in his campaign. Instead, I picked someone running for a different office. This person was engaging and friendly. He was respectful of people that didn’t “appear” to have much to offer. Speaking with everyone, rich or poor, educated or uneducated. He welcomed my involvement in his campaign. Within six months, I ended up running his entire regional campaign office. I put in hundreds of hours in that campaign and helped this person win office. This experience taught me a lot about the kind of leader I wanted to be as I became more successful in life.
Humility costs nothing but yields amazing returns. Being humble sounds simple enough, but what does that actually look like? There are many things that can help someone show their humility. Here is a list of a few traits of being humble that I think are important.
Humility Traits:
- First and foremost, their ego does not enter the room before they do.
- They are approachable, meaning that they are friendly and easy to talk to.
- A humble person listens and asks questions during a conversation.
- Maintain eye contact in a conversation and stay engaged in the discussion. This shows genuine interest.
- They are comfortable making people feel at ease and thanking people when appropriate.
- Humble individuals tend to have an “abundance mentality” and they tend to focus on solutions rather than simply rail about problems.
- Be situationally aware and have strong emotional intelligence.
- They are not self-absorbed. They know their strengths and are comfortable with who they are, but they don’t behave as though the world revolves around them.
- Most importantly, they practice what I call “Givers Gain®.” They approach life with a certain amount of altruism and strive to make a difference for others.
As we become more successful in life, it’s critical to maintain one’s humility. We’ve all met people whose ego enters the room before they do. They behave in a pompous manner and generally expect to be the center of attention most of the time. In the long run, I don’t believe this serves people well.
No one is perfect with this all the time. The process is a journey, not a destination. It is something we must always strive for. At large networking events, I know that I’ve had a good day when people share with me that they are surprised at how easy I was to talk to or that they felt that I came across like a regular person. I believe that there is a “regular person” in all of us. Showing that person to others is part of being humble.
If you achieve success in business, strive to shatter people’s expectations and demonstrate real humility. Be someone who is engaging and caring, as well as knowledgeable and successful. Above all, remember that humble people don’t think less of themselves, they just think of themselves less.
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